How Are You Defining Your Success?

                    How Are You Defining Your Success?    

            dephne1

Consider these Six Pillars.                        By Dr. Daphne Clarke-Hudson.  

                   You’ve heard the cliché; success is a journey, not a destination. In many cases I agree. There is more fun in the chasing than in the catching. A gentleman attending a presentation at a National conference I attended shared this story with the group. I went fishing with a friend of mine and caught a very large striped bass. He was thrilled and scrambled around to find a camera to take a picture. When I bent over to let the fish go, he said, “What are you doing? We can clean it and fry it up back at the cabin!” My reply was, “Man, I don’t want to clean this fish.” Then I let him go. My take away from this story is One went fishing for dinner, the other went fishing for recreation.  

What do you see this story illustrating for you?   

                   If you said that there is more fun in the pursuit of the chase. You could be right; on the other hand you might have said it would have given so much satisfaction for you when you served dinner!  There are no wrong or right answers to this question. Only your personal experience and views on the topic.  

                   You too could be right it’s a matter of choice and personal decision. Success is some way like that; we must choose to define our own success. We are part of a society that loves the thrill of the chase, the excitement of what’s going to happen, the what ifs, and the hopes that come with them. We definitely LOVE a good challenge. Once you’ve “arrived,” you have to set different goals and have a plan in place to get those thrills again.  

                  Too many people think that success is wrapped up in things, but the truth is, success is wrapped up in how you see yourself and how you’re able to enjoy your life be authentically.  

                  To have a completely successful life along both professional and personal, you find “VALUE” you should consider these six components:

1. Peace of Mind. Can anyone truly consider themselves successful if they lack this ingredient? People around the world are constantly searching for peace of mind. I define peace of mind as freedom from fear, worry, anger, and guilt. I think we seek peace of mind through many channels, some of them are destructive and some are worthwhile. Some seek peace of mind through faith, some through money, others in relationships, others in work, and still others seek to fill this void through participation in vices such as gambling or drugs. Very few ever truly find peace of mind outside of their faith, however. Success, no matter how you define it, must have peace of mind in the mix; otherwise your success will be bland and watered down.  

2. Health Energy and Wellness. “Success” without good health and the energy to enjoy life isn’t success at all; it’s just a shell of what it can be. Many people that are financially successful in the world’s eyes spend their fortunes in desperate attempts to regain their health or to stay youthful and vibrant. Any success without health and energy is like a high performance car with no gasoline in the tank.

3. Loving Relationships and Connections. No matter how much financial success someone enjoys, again, it’s a hollow feeling if you have no one to share it with. It doesn’t have to be a spouse; it can be parents, children, friends or other family members. Remember that Scrooge was financially successful, but he had no peace of mind and he had no one to share it with. His success was empty.  

4. Financial Freedom. That is, freedom from thinking about money all the time. Not necessarily being “rich,” but having enough money to pay your bills, feed your family, and take care of basic necessities. For some, $50,000 in the bank would be plenty, for others, $5 million wouldn’t be enough. To be sure, many people think of finances when they visualize success and it IS a major component in our culture, but for the purposes of defining success, I’m talking about the feeling of freedom, that deep sigh that everything is okay. 5. Worthy Goals.  

                Most people have financial freedom as their top goal, but once you have that big pile of cash, then what? That’s why you constantly see millionaires and billionaires getting involved in some type of other business venture or philanthropy. Many people misinterpret their chasing as greed but for someone who is already financially rich, it’s the chase that they love. Money is just the way to keep score. Humans need to be chasing something. We desperately want to improve ourselves, or someone, or something. It’s just human nature. Either we move or we die.  When we start to embrace the fact that money is Energy just like the air we breathe then we realize that it is always there for us to have all that we want for whatever we want when we want it. There is no reason for worshiping the money or hoarding it.  

6. Personal Fulfillment. Maslow called this step Self Actualization. This is the concept of “being all you can be,” of feeling like you matter and that you’re making a difference. This is the feeling that you aren’t just going through the motions for no reason, what you do and who you are is of vital importance. If you have the first five components, but feel unfulfilled and useless, you don’t enjoy the full measure of success. Not all of your endeavors will incorporate all six of these, and any one of them can be a pursuit in itself, but many of these aspects will show up in your pursuit of success. You can adapt these six components into any goal you set for yourself. Wealth for example.

• You’d want the security that it represents.

• The ability to eat well and live a healthy lifestyle.

•The relationships that improve with enough money. Many arguments involve money.

•The freedom it represents. You can do more with it than without it, after all. The ability to set goals much higher than “where’s my next meal coming from.”

 • Lastly, the ability to use money to bless the lives of others.  

Applying this article to my personal life and journey to finishing my degree I saw:  

•That it represents the relief I experience once you’ve finished.

•The health and energy I feel as a result of accomplishing my goal.

•The relationships it will open up for me. •The potential for financial freedom it represents.

• The higher goals I can now set for myself.

•The feeling that I became a new person with new tools through accomplishing my goals.   

                    Here are a few questions I suggest you ask yourself: What am I chasing in your life? What are the goals that I have and why do you have them?  How do my goals mesh with the six aspects of success? How will my life change once you reach the goals you’ve set? By Daphne Clarke-Hudson PhD.(C) 2014

How Are You Defining Your Success?

                      How Are You Defining Your Success?

            dephne1

Consider these Six Pillars.                        By Dr. Daphne Clarke-Hudson.

                   You’ve heard the cliché; success is a journey, not a destination. In many cases I agree. There is more fun in the chasing than in the catching. A gentleman attending a presentation at a National conference I attended shared this story with the group. I went fishing with a friend of mine and caught a very large striped bass. He was thrilled and scrambled around to find a camera to take a picture. When I bent over to let the fish go, he said, “What are you doing? We can clean it and fry it up back at the cabin!” My reply was, “Man, I don’t want to clean this fish.” Then I let him go. My take away from this story is One went fishing for dinner, the other went fishing for recreation.

What do you see this story illustrating for you?

                   If you said that there is more fun in the pursuit of the chase. You could be right; on the other hand you might have said it would have given so much satisfaction for you when you served dinner!  There are no wrong or right answers to this question. Only your personal experience and views on the topic.

                   You too could be right it’s a matter of choice and personal decision. Success is some way like that; we must choose to define our own success. We are part of a society that loves the thrill of the chase, the excitement of what’s going to happen, the what ifs, and the hopes that come with them. We definitely LOVE a good challenge. Once you’ve “arrived,” you have to set different goals and have a plan in place to get those thrills again.

                  Too many people think that success is wrapped up in things, but the truth is, success is wrapped up in how you see yourself and how you’re able to enjoy your life be authentically.

                  To have a completely successful life along both professional and personal, you find “VALUE” you should consider these six components:

1. Peace of Mind. Can anyone truly consider themselves successful if they lack this ingredient? People around the world are constantly searching for peace of mind. I define peace of mind as freedom from fear, worry, anger, and guilt. I think we seek peace of mind through many channels, some of them are destructive and some are worthwhile. Some seek peace of mind through faith, some through money, others in relationships, others in work, and still others seek to fill this void through participation in vices such as gambling or drugs. Very few ever truly find peace of mind outside of their faith, however. Success, no matter how you define it, must have peace of mind in the mix; otherwise your success will be bland and watered down.

2. Health Energy and Wellness. “Success” without good health and the energy to enjoy life isn’t success at all; it’s just a shell of what it can be. Many people that are financially successful in the world’s eyes spend their fortunes in desperate attempts to regain their health or to stay youthful and vibrant. Any success without health and energy is like a high performance car with no gasoline in the tank.

3. Loving Relationships and Connections. No matter how much financial success someone enjoys, again, it’s a hollow feeling if you have no one to share it with. It doesn’t have to be a spouse; it can be parents, children, friends or other family members. Remember that Scrooge was financially successful, but he had no peace of mind and he had no one to share it with. His success was empty.

4. Financial Freedom. That is, freedom from thinking about money all the time. Not necessarily being “rich,” but having enough money to pay your bills, feed your family, and take care of basic necessities. For some, $50,000 in the bank would be plenty, for others, $5 million wouldn’t be enough. To be sure, many people think of finances when they visualize success and it IS a major component in our culture, but for the purposes of defining success, I’m talking about the feeling of freedom, that deep sigh that everything is okay. 5. Worthy Goals.

                Most people have financial freedom as their top goal, but once you have that big pile of cash, then what? That’s why you constantly see millionaires and billionaires getting involved in some type of other business venture or philanthropy. Many people misinterpret their chasing as greed but for someone who is already financially rich, it’s the chase that they love. Money is just the way to keep score. Humans need to be chasing something. We desperately want to improve ourselves, or someone, or something. It’s just human nature. Either we move or we die.  When we start to embrace the fact that money is Energy just like the air we breathe then we realize that it is always there for us to have all that we want for whatever we want when we want it. There is no reason for worshiping the money or hoarding it.

6. Personal Fulfillment. Maslow called this step Self Actualization. This is the concept of “being all you can be,” of feeling like you matter and that you’re making a difference. This is the feeling that you aren’t just going through the motions for no reason, what you do and who you are is of vital importance. If you have the first five components, but feel unfulfilled and useless, you don’t enjoy the full measure of success. Not all of your endeavors will incorporate all six of these, and any one of them can be a pursuit in itself, but many of these aspects will show up in your pursuit of success. You can adapt these six components into any goal you set for yourself. Wealth for example.

• You’d want the security that it represents.

• The ability to eat well and live a healthy lifestyle.

•The relationships that improve with enough money. Many arguments involve money.

•The freedom it represents. You can do more with it than without it, after all. The ability to set goals much higher than “where’s my next meal coming from.”

 • Lastly, the ability to use money to bless the lives of others.

Applying this article to my personal life and journey to finishing my degree I saw:

•That it represents the relief I experience once you’ve finished.

•The health and energy I feel as a result of accomplishing my goal.

•The relationships it will open up for me. •The potential for financial freedom it represents.

• The higher goals I can now set for myself.

•The feeling that I became a new person with new tools through accomplishing my goals.

Here are a few questions I suggest you ask yourself: What am I chasing in your life? What are the goals that I have and why do you have them?  How do my goals mesh with the six aspects of success? How will my life change once you reach the goals you’ve set? By Daphne Clarke-Hudson PhD.(C) 2014

NINE “P” S to SUCCESS:

           NINE “P” S to SUCCESS:

1. PLAN: Set goals with dates of Completion.

2. PURPOSE: Know what your God created PURPOSE is and FOCUS on that CALLING.

3. PERSISTENCE: Keep building meaningful RELATIONSHIPS that adds VALUE to your purpose,vision and mission. Network with those who can and will provide RESOURCES.

4. PERSEVERANCE: When the hill gets steep and the bumps in the Road are rough, don’t give UP,don’t Quit be patient with yourself and have FAITH that God will come through for you right on TIME. He is FAITHFUL.

5. POWER: Your power is in your AUTHENTICITY and UNIQUENESS so use it positively,do not ABUSE it.

6. PRIDE: In all that you do take pride and remember that you only have one chance to make a first IMPRESSION let it be a positive on.

7. PASSION: Your passion is that which helps to fuel your SUCCESS.Having a passion for what you are about will facilitate great accomplishments and successes.

8. PERSPECTIVE: Never lost sight of who you are and to whom you belong. Know this one fact that there is only one YOU,never compare yourself with others. You are already a MASTER PIECE. Embrace that and give your best.

9. PRAYER: Pray as many time during the day as you need to,ask for clarity on things which are a bit fuzzy to you. Use your prayers as a time for THANKSGIVING and GRATITUDE.   Dr. Daphne Clarke-Hudson (C) 2011.

Taking Advantage of Your Adversities

Adversity is one of the most potent forces in one’s life!!!!

                        Trust me! I have traveled a very long road of adversities from an early age.  Hey I am still around to tell my Story thank God for this opportunity. It all started back when I was thirteen years old and lost my Mother. This could have been a very devastating time in my life; however God sends his angles to look out for his love ones, even when I did not request his help. The great thing about it…he is still looking out for me fifty-one years later OH WHAT A BLESSING! Through it  all, miscarriages, divorce , homelessness, incarceration of a family member, death of a special lifelong friend,  betrayals just to list a few things; I can truly write this blog post from a position of “Total Empowerment”  Just to summarize my experiences around taking  advantage of my adversities I have narrowed  my list of values added  to these six.

Values attendees will gain from this presentation:

  • Show how adversities help to shaped and build your CHARACTER.
  • Help you to clarify your priorities and gives you FOCUS.
  • It helps defined your career PATH and PURPOSE.
  • It also helped in fueling your GREATNESS. 
  • Teaches the importance of gratitude. 
  • Help you understand that the PAINS from adversities can be rewarding when the lessons are learned.
  • Shows you that taking responsibility is more powerful than casting blame.  

                        Each of us faces a rich assortment of adversities every day, ranging from minor hassles to major setbacks and challenges, at time even tragedies. However merely coping with or overcoming adversity is not enough to keep us in the game of life. The key to success both in business and in life, is learning how to become a master at converting any adversity, major and minor, into a genuine advantage. This presentation does that.

Daphne Clarke-Hudson

                      Daphne Clarke-Hudson

                         If you want to empower or reinvent your life or to take your organization and staff to a greater level with inspiration that helps them to be motivated and show them how to tap into their inner greatness to achieve success in their lives and careers, Daphne Clarke-Hudson is just the speaker for your event needs. She has been Empowering and inspiring people for over 20 years, her unique Caribbean speaking style , Sunny Personality , High energy, Warmth and engaging ability ill capture the hearts and minds of your audience. She is authentic, unique and passionate in her presentations.

Attending to Self without Being Selfish

 

  •                                     Daphne Clarke-Hudson

                        Before you can effectively lead others it’s important to understand who and who’s you are as a person. It’s important to accept and to be confident in whom you are and all that you do. A strong feeling of confidence and acceptance in yourself and your abilities will allow you to naturally encourage and inspire the best in you to manifest.

                       Based on her book Conversations On Success and her life journey through homelessness Daphne Clarke –Hudson will take you way beyond her journey from the valley to the mountain top. On a quick trip through life journey mapping  process of self-discovery you’ll learn how to uncover obstacles and open doors you’ve closed in your life to put you on tract to not only be a better human being but better leader, a better more productive, purposeful and  passionate YOU—for life. 

                      Spend a fun, inspirational intimate and thought provoking time with yourself while learning to:

    • Identifying your life purpose and calling
    • Identify your career and life dreams and goals
    • Learn techniques to filter your thoughts and slow your racing mind
    • Identify where you’re out of balance
    • Understanding how time management applies to your success
    • Create a plan for professional development and growth
    • Keys to creating a result orienting vision board unique to YOU
    • Learn the advantages of journaling
    • Learn the impact spirituality on this journey
    • Learn how to benefit from the nagging pains of failures.                                              

     

                                                                       

Welcome to The Dreaming Room™

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                           Welcome to The Dreaming Room™

                  The one and only incubator for emerging entrepreneurs, a space and a place where you can learn the essential skills necessary to truly and deeply awaken the new entrepreneur within you.Think of The Dreaming Room™ as a blank piece of paper, where your beginner’s mind is inspired to see, experience, develop and design your Dream, Vision, Purpose and Mission through which you will create a new venture, conceive of a business opportunity, invented solely by you, with the tools, and facilitation of The Dreaming Room™ Facilitator will provide you with.

                  Each one of the 3-hour weekly conversations in your 12-week The Dreaming Room™ journey will introduce you to a new way of thinking about entrepreneurship, about creating a venture of your own, about how to use your wits and imagination to design the future and to eradicate the past.

                 * Do you have a desire, not yet fulfilled?

                 * Do you have a wish to create financial and intellectual independence?

                 * Have you ever wanted to go out on your own, but didn’t know how?

                 * Have you ever had the feeling that you are stuck in a place – a position, a job, a career, a business relationship – that limits you?

                 The Dreaming Room™ is the place to discover how to liberate yourself from your present and past, not by choosing options we are creating for you, but by inventing your own options, which is what entrepreneurs do.Welcome to The Dreaming Room™, an original product of Michael E. Gerber Companies designed to transform the state of entrepreneurship and small businesses throughout the world.

The Life Style Awakening by:Daphne Clarke-Hudson PhD.

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                   The Life Style Awakening by:Daphne Clarke-Hudson PhD.

                     Nowadays, it is taught that humans can replace biological food with medicines. One of these medicines is “multi-vitamins” which hasn’t been proven to have any important health benefits. Moreover, many scientists think that those medicines can cause several health problems.

                     On the other hand, the best way to keep good health is to get nutrition from food and by consuming a healthy smoothie every day, and many scientists confirm that eating healthy by having a balanced diet with more vegetables is the best way to go. Vegetables are free of cholesterol and a source of vitamins, minerals and body protectors.

                     Developing healthy eating habits isn’t as confusing or as restrictive as many people imagine. The first principle of a healthy diet is simply to eat a wide variety of foods. This is important because different foods make different nutritional contributions.
Fruits, vegetables, grains, and legumes should make up the bulk of the calories you consume. The rest should come from low-fat dairy products, lean meat, poultry and fish.

                     You should also try to maintain a balance between calorie intake and calorie expenditure—that is, doesn’t eat more food than your body can utilize. Otherwise, you will gain weight. The way you can tell what your body needs is to listen to it. If you feel hungry, eat. If you feel full, then stop eating. The feeling of hunger and fullness (satiation) is your mind telling you when your body needs or has enough food.

                      In the last few decades, the daily consumption of dietary fibers had decreased, which is fatal for health. Meats, which are now considered as staple food, would have been less prominent in the human diet.

                       By increasing the consumption of fruits and vegetables, you will notice important improvements in health energy and mental wellbeing. You would also be able to maintain an ideal weight. Below, you can find some reasons why you should give green smoothies and vegetable diet a try:

                       ●       Natural weight loss: Green smoothies provide the nutrition, vitamins, minerals and healthy carbohydrates needed to lose weight quickly and safely without having to starve.

                       ●       Preventing cancer: The ACS (American Cancer Society) recommends that eating vegetables and fruits every day is the perfect way to prevent cancer and other illnesses.

                       ●       Antioxidants: Green Smoothies are a source of antioxidants and phytonutrients which give you the best defenses for diseases.
                       ●       Mental Clarity and Focus: This is an obvious and logical result of this healthier diet. It is a  perfect alternative to caffeine because it releases energy slowly, compared to sugary foods which give you an instant high, followed by a sharp fall making you hungry again and therefore eat more.

                       ●       Clearer Skin: This quality is always desired by females. In fact fruits eliminate toxins the right way it has to be instead of through skin; it (skin) becomes clearer and radiant (less acidity and dirt).

                        Therefore, and economically speaking, green smoothies save your money and time and boosts your immune system, reducing the risk of being sick.Eating fruits and drinking green smoothies is vital and essential to our well-being and let you live in harmony with nature. (C)

Daphne Clarke-Hudson PhD.

Reinvention Coach & Speaker

Author soon to be released book: The Life Style Wakening

-: Guide To Personal Development:-

                                                                -: Guide To Personal Development:-

                                                         

                                                                      By-Daphne Clarke-Hudson

                   Humans can change their life by changing their attitude. Personal development is a process that helps gain more control over thoughts and mind. The process need to be well thought and organized to be triumphant. This article will serve as a guide to fully completing and planning your venture for improvement. According to experts, thoughts and mind can be controlled through personal improvement. It helps modify and reprogram our minds to serve our requirements. Importantly, it makes our mind very capable and flexible. It actively changes our brain structure by reprogramming and conditioning our mind in better ways.

                  The initial step to personal development is self evaluation. Take into consideration all the weaknesses and strengths. In this way, ensure to be totally honest and unbiased. Bear in mind that this will serve as the base for the complete process. Thus make certain that the outcomes are true and accurate. Ask for opinions from those who are very close to you. It is because we do not notice every part about ourselves. It may be noticeable from other personal point of view. The second step is to determine. Yes, determine weakness and strengths that you want to develop. It is important to prioritize the needs.

                 Now after formulating a strategy or plan to improve self, strategize it. As you are already aware of what aspects you want to develop about yourself, plan particular interventions and state the goals clearly. Evaluate your goals at the end of the complete process. Nevertheless, the key step to personal development is putting into action. This is the trickiest part. It is because you have already done with the planning and this is the phase to put that into actions. Keep in mind, this is the trickiest part so do not give yourself chance to commit errors.

                Even a small error may increase the chances of being unsuccessful. The final step is appraisal. In this stage, goals that need to be met are verified. Do not let it upset you. In such case, retrace the taken steps. In case of being unsuccessful, reformulate the plan and go through the complete process repeatedly to achieve success in personal development. Nevertheless, following these steps will assist you in attaining your aim to attain the quest in personal improvement. Keep in mind, the way of self improvement is personal. As a result, make your own technique to develop self with these significant steps.

                 Each one has their own approach. These steps are more of a guide that one can make use of. Also, keep yourself motivated. Put your imagination power in practice. Many studies have revealed that imagining oneself taking an action is a best way to motivate oneself to take the step in near future. So visualize methods regularly to reprogram behaviours and thoughts. One of the excellent examples is professionals rehearsing mentally prior to a match or game. In this stage of personal development, stop blaming self. This is the most common trap and we happen to programmed to move blame to outside factors.

                                                                                 Thank You!

-: Guide To Personal Development:-

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                                                                         By-Daphne Clarke-Hudson

           Humans can change their life by changing their attitude. Personal development is a process that helps gain more control over thoughts and mind. The process need to be well thought and organized to be triumphant. This article will serve as a guide to fully completing and planning your venture for improvement. According to experts, thoughts and mind can be controlled through personal improvement. It helps modify and reprogram our minds to serve our requirements. Importantly, it makes our mind very capable and flexible. It actively changes our brain structure by reprogramming and conditioning our mind in better ways.

                  The initial step to personal development is self evaluation. Take into consideration all the weaknesses and strengths. In this way, ensure to be totally honest and unbiased. Bear in mind that this will serve as the base for the complete process. Thus make certain that the outcomes are true and accurate. Ask for opinions from those who are very close to you. It is because we do not notice every part about ourselves. It may be noticeable from other personal point of view. The second step is to determine. Yes, determine weakness and strengths that you want to develop. It is important to prioritize the needs.

                      Now after formulating a strategy or plan to improve self, strategize it. As you are already aware of what aspects you want to develop about yourself, plan particular interventions and state the goals clearly. Evaluate your goals at the end of the complete process. Nevertheless, the key step to personal development is putting into action. This is the trickiest part. It is because you have already done with the planning and this is the phase to put that into actions. Keep in mind, this is the trickiest part so do not give yourself chance to commit errors.

                Even a small error may increase the chances of being unsuccessful. The final step is appraisal. In this stage, goals that need to be met are verified. Do not let it upset you. In such case, retrace the taken steps. In case of being unsuccessful, reformulate the plan and go through the complete process repeatedly to achieve success in personal development. Nevertheless, following these steps will assist you in attaining your aim to attain the quest in personal improvement. Keep in mind, the way of self improvement is personal. As a result, make your own technique to develop self with these significant steps.

                  Each one has their own approach. These steps are more of a guide that one can make use of. Also, keep yourself motivated. Put your imagination power in practice. Many studies have revealed that imagining oneself taking an action is a best way to motivate oneself to take the step in near future. So visualize methods regularly to reprogram behaviours and thoughts. One of the excellent examples is professionals rehearsing mentally prior to a match or game. In this stage of personal development, stop blaming self. This is the most common trap and we happen to programmed to move blame to outside factors.

                                                                                   Thank You!