With the holidays just around the corner I want to invite you to check your attitude. Yes, check it at the door. However, before you get to the door you will need to check it at home. In our society, we are all operating at such fast and high pace and with the added pressure of the holidays things can go unnoticed.
This is the time when we tend to notice and worry about what’s lacking in our lives, and most people’s comparison of themselves is so much higher, because of their drive to succeed during the year, they are now focusing on what’s standing in their way of greater success.
Most people turn their dials to tune into the things they don’t have, the stuff…big cars, big houses, status, money, perfect relationships. However when we view our world from this perspective, we set ourselves up for misery and disappointment even though we are experiencing our own successes.
Have you ever experience feelings of insufficiency, imperfection, and envy? These are known barriers to true happiness. When we harbor these feelings, we limit our capacity for feeling joyful, happy and fulfilled.
Although we often strive to find happiness and success by working toward that which we covet, research shows that this approach may be holding us back. It’s actually the practice of noticing and appreciating what we already have that will bring more happiness.
Feeling gratitude for what’s going well in life has a remarkable impact on how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. Positive Psychology research has shown that gratitude is strongly linked with greater happiness and fulfillment.
No Need to wait until the holidays!
Start daily implementation of your gratitude and you will start experiencing a surge of positive attitude. First things first. Start your day off with an understanding that you are blessed to be alive.
Here are a few tips to guide you. And I highly recommend that you create your own list.
Tip # 1 Practice meditation & prayer:
I start off giving thanks that I am alive and that this day will be my best day ever.
In a research, Counting Blessings Versus Burdens: An Experimental Investigation of Gratitude and Subjective Well-Being in Daily Life The effect of a grateful outlook on psychological and physical well-being was examined by Robert A. Emmons University of California, Davis Michael E. McCullough University of Miami found In Studies 1 and 2, participants were randomly assigned to 1 of 3 experimental conditions (hassles, gratitude listing, and either neutral life events or social comparison); they then kept weekly (Study 1) or daily (Study 2) records of their moods, coping behaviors, health behaviors, physical symptoms, and overall life appraisals. In a 3rd study, persons with neuromuscular disease were randomly assigned to either the gratitude condition or to a control condition. The gratitude-outlook groups exhibited heightened well-being across several, though not all, of the outcome measures across the 3 studies, relative to the comparison groups. The effect on positive affect appeared to be the most robust finding. Results suggest that a conscious focus on blessings may have emotional and interpersonal benefits. Review the full research here.
Tip # 2 Write in your gratitude journal:
List all the things and people you are grateful for large and small….some people do a digital. Good old handwriting works best for me and my brain.
Tip # 3. Practice mental gratitude
Because there will be times and situation when you may not be able to write. Mellissa Stephenson has this to say about mental thank you. Sometimes you may have an opportunity to feel grateful for someone or something but don’t have a chance to express it out loud. Practice saying mental “Thank You!”s to people (or things) you aren’t able acknowledge in other ways—like the driver who let you in, or the super delicious dinner you made yourself. This will help you appreciate and reap the benefits of positive experiences that might otherwise go unnoticed.
Tip # 4. Always have a stock of blank cards to write your thank you notes.
A hand written note can turn someone’s day and life around.
Now that your attitude is at peak you are set to have the best holidays one filled with gratitude.
I am grateful you took the time to read this article!