Struggling along to face the challenges of the world and from others, many people tend to step further back from self-development and self-determination often thinking, what’s the point anyway? It seems every step one takes; someone else comes along and pushes them further back. There never seems to be a dull moment in life. What’s more, the vast majority of the people in the world spend their time judging others and forcing others to conform to the way they think, behave, etc, when an entity is noncompliant, these people will increase the stress that they put on the person’s shoulders. There never seems to be an escape.
Most people are conformists. This presents a problem because the vast major of people sit around waiting for things to happen, rather than striving to make things happen. The problems never seem to end. Despite of all the problems one faces however they must move to reframe their thinking to that of a nonconformist in order to survive this hasty life. Most people think that a nonconformist is someone poses trouble or threats. Contrary to their thinking, the nonconformist is a maverick or eccentric thinker that has free spirit and will not allow humankind to go against the “laws of nature.” They stand up for what they believe in and their self-determination is constantly monitored as this entity will build from his or her strengths to stand tall and protest against wrong.
People all around the world strive success and failure. There may be times when you try to achieve success but fail. When the outcome is a positive one, we feel happy and contented because our efforts pay fruits when we need them the most. On the other hand, sometimes our effort does not provide us with success and the result is that we face awkward situations and feel frustrated. In actuality, failure is the key to success. Failure may cause disappointment and sometimes collapse, yet the breakdowns are only challenges that one must accept, face, and move to take action to take back control of his or her life.
This can be understood more clearly by an example of a boy who lost his left hand during an accident. He had interest in learning judo. After much persuasion, his parent agreed to appoint a teacher for him. The judo master taught him only one action. The day of competition arrived and the boy was declared as the winner. Then the master told the innocent boy that the stroke, which he taught him, was the only stroke that could save his life because the opponent would need his left hand to defend himself.
The little boy and his parents realized that sometimes-even weaknesses become strengths. So, we should not underestimate ourselves and rather follow our inner self for personal development.
No matter what obstacles one may come up against, realizing that these obstacles are only challenges can help you maintain self-determination in order to continue growing. If you let the obstacles get in the way of your progress, it promotes negative thinking, negative behaviors, and a bad attitude. You will not win. People with bad attitudes often land in jail, running from the law, player hating, or dead.
It does not pay to hate, doubt, fear, or resent another individual, simply because the bullet you channel to others will in time come back to bite you. For this reason, one must keep their self-determination strong and continue through the self-development processes in order to survive this world. Instead of worrying about fitting in, fit into your own shoes and take control of your life.